You can see from the last post I entered in February, that I was toying back then with the idea of committing to Zumba. I did not. In the intervening months, I continued to do terrible things to my own health–ate whatever, whenever. Worse still, I remained sedentary. I’m pushing 50, and that just isn’t a good idea. Committing to something like daily exercise just hasn’t been easy for me.
In 2004, a momentary lapse in judgment moved me to document my weight-loss on the pages of the San Antonio Express News. What was I thinking? I still don’t know. But that was almost ten years ago. I was low-carbing, and my obsessive personality carried me through to losing 25 pounds in one month. Yes. Even as I write that, I cringe to think of it. It’s true what they say about anything that seems too good to be true. I gained the weight back in no time. Back in 2010, I did it again, this time quietly. I lost about 20 pounds and was shopping for clothes in the teen department. The weight soon came back again. It does.
Everyone who knows me, knows my weight fluctuates. Everyone who loves me, knows that my intentions are usually pretty good–to get on the wagon–and all the different wagons–and eat right and exercise. And I do stay on the wagons. For. A. Little. While. At. Least. This time, as the bathroom scale climbed to numbers I’d not seen since I was pregnant, something different happened: I did not care. Not one whit. Not at all. I won’t get into it here, but there were reasons for this indifference.
I wasn’t very active and I ate my emotions all day long for the first part of the summer, from May until the end of June. I just didn’t care. I was busy with my family, my writing, my garden and my animals. Sure. All of those things make me happy. So, so happy. I guess something had to give some place. I guess I’m glad that if something had to suffer, it would be me, just me and this old body, not my family or my sweet pets. I have been a very blissfully happy wife and mother and writer and teacher, but also a high-functioning sad girl, incredulous at the meanness of the world and eating her emotions as the ickiest, most unsatisfying kind of balm.
I’m stronger than all that now.
I have the Zumba DVDs and pop them in once in a while and dance around. But in recent weeks, I’ve done what I’d long avoided: I joined a gym and started going to Zumba classes, sometimes twice a day. One Monday morning, in an insomnia-induced stupor, I announced to my husband and daughter that I was going to Zumba. Just like that. Inexplicably. I got in the car and drove the few minutes over to the gym as if it were something I did every day. The experience was very positive. I’m really graceless and klutzy and even slipped and fell during one particularly up-tempo reggaeton sequence. But I loved it. I studied the class schedule and figured I would make it over a couple of times a week. Nope. I can’t stay away. Now, mind you, I’ve only been at this for one short month–less than that, really. But it feels great to get the blood moving. When I’m active, I’m less inclined to put crap down my gullet. I’m an emotional eater, to be sure, but if I can eclipse some sad feelings with an endorphin rush, I might make a better choice when I’m bowing down to the light of the refrigerator. It happens.
I’ve read that doing Zumba might not help me lose the pounds, but it might help whittle away inches. I’m someone who needs to see the numbers on that scale go back down for a little motivation, but I’ve been uncharacteristically patient. Good thing, too, because the needle on that scale did not budge for over two weeks. What about inches? Yes. I didn’t take any measurements when I started on this journey, but, at last, I’m not popping out of my clothes. It’s just not about the numbers for me any more. I just want to feel better, to be active and healthy. The rest will follow.
Another thing I like about Zumba is that it is truly a no-judgment zone. I can think of few contexts in life outside of my own family life that I can say that about. At the gym a couple weeks back, a woman made a racist remark about those of us who take Zumba classes. I was stunned because I don’t experience any negative exchanges in the class itself. But frankly, I’ve heard more cruel remarks directed at me and mine in so many other contexts, even in my workplace. Sad, but true.
In the classes we are all supportive of each other. There are young people there and much older people. Everyone is from everywhere. We are a veritable United Nations of Zumba-ites dancing to songs from diverse genres and places. I meet people from all over the world in these classes. No one is envious of another’s moves or abilities or weight loss. We are all there to help each other. This stands in stark contrast with the chiding from “friends” in other contexts who tell me to stop being “boastful.” One even said “You act like you’re the only person who ever worked out.” I wasn’t being boastful. I don’t think I can convince this person of that, however. Maybe she wants me to remain silent and pre-diabetic. No can do.
And anyway, riddle me this. What’s to brag about? I’m just moving this body. So what? But I can’t say enough about how being active in this other way–with positive people and music that I adore– pulled me out of the doldrums, from a pretty dark place into the sweaty, fluorescent light. Am I being “boastful” about moving my body and trying to be happy in this short time I’m here on earth? No. Is that what people brag about? Gosh. That’s pretty petty. No. I think I was just sharing. I think I was feeling so happy and carrying the good will of my gym classmates (you should hear *their* stories) over to other areas of my life. I hope others who have been thinking about doing something *good* for themselves will be moved to action by my words, just as I continue to be inspired by others along the way.
For a long time, I’ve been reading and “liking” the FB posts of a Friend who makes it over to the gym at 5 am. She works all day *helping others* and makes this time to take care of herself. I’ve admired her for a long time. I think about her almost every time I walk into the gym. For months and months, my sister encouraged me to get out and get to the gym. I never listened. She heard all my sad stories. She knew. She just knew that I needed to get out of my head, out of my way, and to think about improving my health instead of destroying it. She is a superb dancer and has had incredible success in using Zumba to maintain good health. I think about her every time I enter the Zumba studio. My mother told me many, many times that a little activity would do wonders for me. I was too busy feeling bad to listen. Of course, she was right–always is. A cousin who had experienced it all, guided me along with encouraging words. My husband also witnessed my steady decline. He paid for my gym membership and coaxed me to join him on the treadmill, in the pool, on the running/walking track at the park. Like my sister and mother, he understood that some activity might help me feel a little better. They were right. I feel a little better. And my daughter? Well, there is no better motivation…
I’m also very inspired by my Zumba instructors and classmates. I hope to write about some of them in future posts. Right now, threads of their stories are appearing in other writing projects.
If someone had told me back in May that I’d be choosing to go to Zumba classes everyday, that I’d be looking forward to it, I would have thought they were completely misguided. Am I going to regret documenting this latest chapter in my blog? Fall term starts again in a couple weeks. I will no longer attend my morning Zumba classes and I’m always really tuckered out when I get home from work. I’ll have courses to prep, papers to grade, a thesis to write and revise, a home and family to take care of. Am I really going to keep up with evening Zumba classes? I don’t know. I hope so because it’s a really good thing to do. That’s why I’m writing about it. I found something I enjoy that’s actually good for me. I wish that for everyone.
There are no magic bullets. No panaceas. I’m still in the honeymoon phase of all of this, but I feel so very optimistic about it. I hope I can use my energy for good by walking away from negative people and situations. It isn’t always easy. It’s a heavy, heavy business. I’m getting stronger.